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What Does Porn Recovery Look Like?

Recovery is difficult. We wish they could just say “NO” in their head and never watch porn again. Rarely does that ever happen.

Rewiring the Brain 

New thought processes have to be learned as well as learning to manage emotions. Here are some of the important things that need to happen during the course of recovery:

  • Learn the causes behind their habit or addiction
  • Clean up their environment/reduce temptation
  • Become accountable for their actions
  • Manage triggers and emotions
  • Create new healthy thoughts and habits
  • Stay involved in a recovery group
  • Learn new relationship skills

This can be a slow process, just as most permanent life changes happen slowly. Many people have found that it takes at least 90-days to reboot the brain and body from a porn habit. However, it can take much longer, and 90-days is just a starting point for many.

The Ascend Program

Month 1: Self Awareness, Month 2: Self Control, Month 3: Self Mastery.

  • Daily Lessons – The Ascend recovery program is a course with short daily lessons for 3 months. Participants log-in daily to watch a video or read something, sometimes answering reflective questions, and sometimes making a plan for how to change a certain area of their life. Logging in daily helps them stay focused on recovery and learn in a step by step process.
  • Weekly Group Meetings – Everyone has a small group that meets weekly online. Participants share how their week has been going in an atmosphere of acceptance and support. Group buddies are assigned so participants can learn to create supportive relationships throughout the week.
  • Accountability Partners – Each participant is assigned an accountability partner whom they can text or email daily to report their struggles or victories and receive help.

Other Recovery Programs 

There are many other recovery programs out there, but all of them involve these 3 things: 1.) Learning, 2.) Accountability, and 3.) Struggling to overcome the physical and emotional pull of porn. You can find a review of some popular programs here: Porn Recovery Resources

We encourage the use of any tools, programs or information that can help with recovery. Fortify, Rtribe, and Covenant Eyes use software to assist people in their recovery process. These types of tools can be combined with the Ascend program if the participant finds them helpful.

This is just a brief overview to help you understand the process your partner will be going through.